I am 23 and pregnant. I am NOT some girl that doesn't know the father, had an accident, or was just stupid. I'm not saying these children are loved any less, don't get me wrong. I am, however, saying that I am not like everyone else so people need to stop looking at me like I'm some knocked up teenage girl that should have used protection. My husband and I had specific goals set in place before we even decided trying. We never had the "if it happens it happens" attitude because we wanted to make sure we had completed these goals. I have been married for 4 years and I believe we know each other very well for that amount of time. We are passed the honeymoon phase and we had plenty of time to just be US. We have done our work to get to where we are. We got married, we got the house, we got the cars we wanted, we learned more and more about each other and how to handle certain situations, we learned (somewhat) how to handle our finances and we met our savings goal. All before we started trying for a child. I am not one of those that had an accident and has to suffer the rest of my life because I have to sacrifice nights out. I sacrificed those a LONG time ago. They never really appealed to me and I feel my time can be better used at home. I'm not saying I never go out, but I'm not giving anything up either. People keep looking at me with pity in their eyes as though my life is over. It is just beginning! I have wanted this for years, and I have worked my butt off to make sure we brought this child into the best situation we could. I just can't stand how people look at me when they find out I am pregnant. The "I'm so sorry your life will never be the same" look. I know my life will never be the same. That was the plan all along.
ITS THINGS LIKE THIS THAT INFLUENCE THOSE 'PITY LOOKS'
Again, I'm not saying my child is loved any more than others or that I am a better person than others because I was careful. I am simply saying people need to wipe that stupid look off their faces and understand that not every young mother is a statistic. Some young mothers out there actually wanted to be young mothers. You have no idea what their life plan is, so stop assuming you do. Don't assume that just because she is young, pregnant, and married, that she got married simply because of the pregnancy. Don't assume that she doesn't want this child. Don't assume she doesn't know the father. Don't assume it was some drunken night out. Don't sit there and look at any young mother like you are better than her. Sure, her pregnancy may have been an accident, but as long as she is a good mother, why does it concern you how young she is?
People need to stop judging young mothers like they are all some sad story. Yes, Teen Mom does a fantastic job of showing all of the drama that COULD come along with being young and pregnant, but there is a reason they only choose 4 girls to be on each series.....those are the 4 with the highest public ratings. Those, however, are not the 4 that accurately represent the entire population of young moms.
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